Introduction:
The following are a series of “Why’s” that have been answered based on the popular inputs received over from friends, family and society at large. Some of the why’s are followed by “What’s”- they are for the reader to answer for himself.
-Robin
Q. Why are we born?
Ans.
- To carry the generation forward
- Conceived as an act of lust by parents
- Conceived out of rape of the woman of an unhappy union
- Conceived by “mistake”
- Born out as a symbol of love of parents
- Born because the relatives would not leave the young parents in peace; who wanted to adopt kids in the first place.
- Born out of wedlock
- Who cares? I’m here to enjoy life.
THINK : What is birth?
Q. Why do we do things that we are asked not to do?
Ans.
- The grass is always greener on the other side
- Sin is sexy- for it’s forbidden.
- We do not learn until we experiment – past experiences form the basis of future learning.
- To err is human
THINK : What is right and what is wrong?
Q. Why are children scolded for the same things that their parents were scolded for; in their childhood?
Ans.
- Parents are concerned; it’s the inborn emotion of the role called parent
- Human species is not designed in a manner that they learn from the mistakes of one generation.
Q. Why do we marry?
Ans.
- Social obligation – just for the heck of it
- To put an end to flirting career (at least socially) and act more responsibly
- To bear kids and take the generation ahead.
- Parental and Peer pressure
- To have loads of free sex without any fear or favour.
- To share our lives, joys and sorrows with someone who is of a similar age group and leave the parents’ nest for they are old now and cannot take care of us.
- Because we love someone and cannot stay away from him/her
Q. Why can’t we just live lives by ourselves?
Ans.
- Too much of solitude isn’t good.
- Its human to stay in groups- anything beyond is either a punishment or madness
- Absence makes the heart look out for other available options; resulting in a socially illegitimate scene.
THINK : What is solitude? What is loneliness?
Q. Why do we have so much work and so little time?
Ans.
- Work expands to fill the time allotted.
- So that we can be free of worries. An empty mind is a devil’s workshop.
- We have time but we just don’t realize that the clock is ticking away.
- I will have time when I have money. Time=Money
THINK : What are you living for?
Q. Who decides how much is too much?
Ans.
- Parents, family etc
- Society at large
- We, each one for self
- Close circle of friends
- Destiny
- Law
- I decide for myself – based on the broad framework of what is socially acceptable.
THINK: Whose life is it that is being affected?
Q. Why do we go to offices and work?
Ans.
- That’s life- everyone has to work from Monday to Saturday and have a break after that.
- There is nothing better to do at home. Plus the office has free AC, internet, gym etc and a vast circle of friends.
- To earn money - money is my God
- To earn money – to support my family and needs; including those related to hobbies.
- To escape from home, solitude, parents, wife and kids- that’s the only time I have some peace.
Q. Why don’t we live our lives the way we want to-doing things that we just want to do?
Ans.
- There are specific things that a human has to do- for the larger benefit of the society
- Stigma – what will everyone say?
- Cant afford to upset parents/family
- My own heart doesn’t approve of excesses-it’s bad.
- I do what I feel like; who cares. In the end it doesn’t even matter.
THINK: What if you had just a few days or maybe just a few hours left to live?
Q. Why don’t we adopt children and old people?
Ans.
- Aren’t one set of parents enough?
- My generation must carry my blood not that of an unknown filthy stranger
- Who has the time to do so?
- I give out money for social causes- the rest is taken care of by the authorities and NGO’s. Doesn’t make sense to drive them all to unemployment.
- I would adopt children if only I do not have any of my own- the last resort.
- Can’t afford to at the moment; but the day I am; will do so.
THINK: What are your best memories as a child?
Q. Why do we die?
Ans.
- To be born again in some other role
- To put an end to miseries of this life.
- To get back the same kind of treatment that we provided others with in the previous life
- So that the creepy crawlies and bacteria can have food for the next few days
- Of diseases, stress, pollution and lifestyle.
THINK: What is death?
Q. Why don’t we remember all the people who died?
Ans.
- Out of my sight, out of my mind
- Remember a few because they were close-they brought me happiness
- Remember my enemies and feel happy they aren’t there anymore
- Remember the beggar who died on the roadside and had no one to claim him
THINK: What do you want to be remembered for after you die and by whom?
nice one..
ReplyDeletebtw, last question - What do you want to be remembered for after you die and by whom?
As always, my answer is another question, why would I want to be remembered anyways? Just for the gratification of my descendants? (as I won't anyways be here to enjoy my popularity etcetera)..
Whether we want it or not someone will remember us..either for good or bad. Its a different matter that the memory will pale out over time. So for the time that someone remembers should it be good or bad?
ReplyDeleteIf it hardly makes a difference then skip the question dude(-; Our objective here is to get the thoughts flowing and not get judgemental.
Deeply engaged question, good :-),
ReplyDeleteJust putting my thought and questions:
Q. Why are we born? What is birth?
Ans.
There exist some supreme power , She decide one or other reason for life to move forward, be it bird or animal or us “Social Animals”. She decide smiling when and whom to get extinct.
Q. Why do we do things that we are asked not to do? What is right and what is wrong?
Ans.
- Rules are evolved by society over time. Gays / Lesbians relations were consider as sin few centuaries ago now they are accepted as “Freedom to act and decide”. Those who break the rules first time are considered culprits but if everybody likes it, it is law and accepted.
- Right and wrong are perception of self. If public smoking and drinking are bad for society and health of ppl. Why not government completely ban these? because it is earning hell lot money. So they are good for them.
Q. Why do we marry?
- Related to birth and all the reasons.
- To follow what 98% did.
- because we love, want to name the relation called “marriage”
- Want to be happy as friends say they are happy. I don't know what kind of happiness “Husband and wife say they are happy, they just have time to fight if one is working. If both are working” They are more happy as they don't have time even to fight”
Q. Why can’t we just live lives by ourselves?
- We are taught we need company of friends and family. we are not ready to the break or accept or even develop confidence that i can live alone.
- Think: People living alone “Why they have more no of pets?”,”Why they booze more?” “Why they think a lot?,”Why they smoke more” , even few i found, “crazy readers”, “can watch hell no of movies in single day” Just to find partner
THINK : What is solitude? What is loneliness?
- There is nothing absolute solitute or loneliness. If i think i am living alone but doing the reading, i have some partner called book “which is written by some person”. I am dependent more or less on everybody.
- Loneliness or solitude is fear “if something happens”. I am alone in house if some lizard or cockroach falls on me while sleeping ;-).
Q. Why do we have so much work and so little time? Few more
- My friends are successful, shouldn't i also earn?
- Society is killer
- What are you living for?
- Because there is something in us which force to live, some or the other time we want to die.
Q. Who decides how much is too much?
THINK: Whose life is it that is being affected?
- Its journey, i am happy to be satisfied of not being unsatisfied. Everybody life gets affected, somewhat direct or indirect.
Q. Why don’t we live our lives the way we want to-doing things that we just want to do?
THINK: What if you had just a few days or maybe just a few hours left to live?
- Want to write 2 thanks cards each to ppl who cursed me, deceived me etc etc. and 1 for who appreciated me, given me wonderful moments and confidence to sustain.
Q. Why don’t we adopt children and old people?
Wanted to but what my partner will think? What parents will think? What society will think about me? Why should i? Would i able to give that much love? “Just problem of confidence level”
THINK: What are your best memories as a child?
- When i was in deep pain and struggle for years. :). Those years carved me otherwise.......
Q. Why do we die?
- something in us which get bored after certain no of years and want to try some new formation.
Q. Why don’t we remember all the people who died?
-What do you want to be remembered for after you die and by whom?
-I don't want to be remembered. As people will remember:
- If i have done something bad to them, and they consider me as enemy.
- If i owe somebody money.
- If i left some fortune for somebody.
- If i do some great thing.
If the answer is yes, it would be difference i created.
Thanks Jim...u have done it beautifully...giving me more options..as answers.Keep it up :) Inspires me to write better (and more)
ReplyDelete-Robin