The five roads-which one will you take???

Hello Roadies,

Since the whole concept of blogging (atleast for me) is to maintain a flow of ideas; I had posted the article "The Road less Travelled" as a preliminary path finder for one of my friends. His problem is a bit more complex...say something like moving from Linear to Quadratic Equations.

I respect the judgement of the reader group hence am putting his problem for analysis before you. You may reply to me by phone or mail but the better idea is to share your perspective here itself. Those of you who want to keep their identity secret may do so by choosing "Anonymous"

Ok here we go....The guy in question (lets call him Guy) has a love interest(Love) . He finds the L charming, witty, cheerful social and intelligent, the gal next door whom you can take home to your mom....just the kind of partner most of us would desire. Also let me reinforce the fact that this is not the case of "love blindness". L also loves him with an equal passion and they do make a good match, emotionally and physically. For those of you who believe in horscopes and destiny,I have a good news...The Kundali of the two match, par excellence in all standards.They even belng to the same caste and sect, so it couldnt have been more perfect.

However, the real problem is G is soon to be engaged to a lady(Engaged), chosen by his parents. By any standards unless you wish to have a dumb doormat for a wife,L is better than W in all respects. W is blissfully unaware of the crackling chemistry that is working havoc beween her supposed fiancee and L. L is well aware of the situation but she chooses to ignore the situation (until you guyz decide :)) as she shares with G something beyond love...a deep friendship that stems from common tastes and interests. The current situation is that when G and L meet they choose ot to discuss the topic and concentrate on what they have....things to discuss, silences to be shared....

On his part G is unwilling to speak to his parents on the issue. He feels it will create a scandal putting his parents in a hurt mode from which they might not be able to recover in their old age. He has not spoken to anyone in the family about this.

So what do we do? Plausible pathways in the process can be:

1. G talks to his parents about the situation. No parents are Hitlers. They should atleast be made aware of the situation and depending on the feedback(positive or negative) he should decide the future course action.

2. G and L put an instant stop to all communications between them. Breaking an engagement is an absolute scandal. It may hurt badly for a few days but then its the best for everyone in question. L is sure to find a nice guy with whom she can spend a life without being called a husband stealer.

3.G and L stick together till one of them is married off.Cut all contacts once this happens.Thats called making hay while the sun shines.

4. Stick together for a lifetime as friends. Cut off the passion part and go over the life as if nothing existed between them beyond a few common tastes. That ways they retain each other and everyone is happy. Time of course will heal all wounds.

5. Any other options.


Do get back on this and it will put a lot of order in a couple of lives. Thanks!

-Robin